WHAT GOOD COACHING LOOKS LIKE
Even as a coach, I’ve invested in on-off coaching for the past decade and it’s brought me nothing but benefits.
It’s given me a safe container to reflect and gain clarity, develop fresh insights, and rebuild parts of myself that I once assumed were dormant or incapable of overcoming certain challenges.
Coaching helped me see what needed to shift in my life and inner world — offering the kind of aha moments that reveal the real issue beneath the surface. Often, what I thought was the problem was simply pointing towards a deeper lesson.
Years down the line, the ripple effects have been undeniable: deeper relationships, firmer alignment with my values, and a growing belief in the strength and resilience I carry.
It gave me the courage to say no and set better boundaries. It strengthened the purpose and self-leadership I had within me. It gave me clarity and conviction to take action and make adjustments to lead a more authentic and fulfilling life.
Coaching led me towards becoming a coach myself
What I’ve learnt from my coaching experiences, teachers, and mentors, is that coaching is both an art and a privilege.
As coaches, we witness someone’s struggles — but also their transformation. We hold space for self-discovery, growth, and the rise of inner leadership. We walk beside clients as they learn to own their choices, honour their values, and become the kind of people who are clear about what they want and how to get there.
But change can be uncomfortable. Sometimes, our fears are louder than our desires. Past hurts or uncertainty about the future can hold us back from committing to our needs or taking the steps we know are right.
A good coaching session may unearth some of this. There may be tears, laughter, long pauses, or moments where everything shifts quietly on the inside. A good coach stays present. A great coach holds space for the discomfort — and supports the client toward meaningful forward movement, whatever that looks like for them.
Good coaches do this through empathy, grounded presence, and questions that invite reflection and growth.
Often, it’s because they’ve walked a similar path themselves — and even when they haven’t, they’re anchored in a deep inner awareness that recognises the humanity in all of us.
A good coach will not make you feel broken.
A good coach will not rush to fix you.
I say this because the coaching industry is increasingly filled with cookie-cutter programs and marketing that preys on fear and insecurity. There are offers that demand a $10,000 investment for a “fool-proof” system that promises income, confidence, or transformation — all delivered without meaningful human connection or any 1:1 time with the coach.
What if you weren’t broken to begin with?
What if you were already capable, worthy, and deserving of the life you dream about?
What if working with your fears opened doors you didn’t know were there?
It’s coaching questions like these that help the magic unfold, and a good coaching session includes deep presence, trust in the unknown and vulnerability, and authentic connection that supports growth.
A good coach shows up without perfection or ego
A good coach recognises that the client has all the resources within them to thrive.
As a coach, I remind myself that every individual I meet is the CEO of their life — just like you are — and sometimes all it takes is the right partner to help that inner leader stand tall, make decisions, and use its voice to determine what’s next.
Change may not happen in one session, but a series of good coaching sessions can catalyse transformation that lasts — in how you show up for yourself, and how you show up for people and what matters most.
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